How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

I'm not going to sit here and pretend I don't do this. We literally can't help ourselves but what you need to watch out for is the negative effect this has on your self esteem. On a daily basis we are bombarded with images of exactly what we don't look like. And our daughters, sisters, cousins and friends are going to grow up with the same problem. So it's basically a never ending cycle?

Well hopefully I can be one of the few voices that stands up and says hey! You don't have to let them do that to you. You can love yourself just the way you are and the sky will literally not explode ;)

Here are some ways to help you stop negatively comparing yourself to others:

Appreciate what you have - really take the time to think about all the great things you have going for you. You obviously have access to technology if you are reading this so you are better off than about 80% of women in the world. So that in itself is something to be happy about. But let's talk about more girl stuff. So what you're not a size 2 or that cute guy doesn't like you. Are you super smart? Do you have a great personality? Are you a darn good person? Then what's the problem? Stop worrying about what you don't have and work on what you already have and what you can fix.

Be happy she is beautiful or successful - yes she is drop dead gorgeous and ridiculously successful. Instead of being unhappy about this, use this as inspiration to work hard to take care of yourself and your success. Other women are not a threat. I repeat: they are not a threat. So next time the green monster sneaks up on you, change your mindset and realize that you are wasting time being jealous and unhappy when you have so much towards which you could be working.

Fake it until you make it - you have been brainwashed into thinking this is the normal reaction to someone being "better" off than you when it's really not. It's going to take time to learn to love yourself enough that you can rejoice in the success of others. Just start right now and each time you find yourself grovelling in self hate just snap out of it and change your mindset. Soon it will just be natural.

Stop dreaming and start doing - sometimes this comparison comes from others doing exactly what we wish we could have the confidence to do. Let me tell you something very important; if you want to do something you better start now because you will wake up one day with regrets that could have been avoided. Even if you fail you can at least say you gave it a shot and a damn good one at that!
Also on a side note; my great-grandmother once told me to never wish for what someone else has as you never know how they got it and what they are doing to keep it...

Just a few last words guys. Just remember that I will never be as pretty as you and you will never be as pretty as me., We are our own pretty and that's how it should be - if that makes sense :)


Do you struggle with self esteem? What are some ways you have learned to stop painting yourself in a negative light?

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